How to find the unfindable
By Jennifer Gresham
Fortunately, there are ways to coax them out of hiding. Taking a cue from our octopus example, here are five ways to get started.
Be patient
It took years of neglect to get to this point. Don’t be surprised if it takes more than a single feedback session or lunchtime conversation with friends to draw them back out again. Meditation, exercise, and showering are all good strategies for finding the unexpected. And hey, there’s no harm in doing all three frequently!
Know what you’re looking for
Tim Ferriss argues that a big part of our problem is that we’re asking the wrong question. It’s not “What do I want to do?” but “What makes me excited?” Hang around some kids (preferably your own if you have some) and watch what makes their eyes light up. Catch yourself being happy, then try to engineer work situations that recreate that feeling.
Get up close
You’ll never appreciate the beauty and complexity of an octopus until you get really close. Same thing with your dreams. Get specific. Do you want to work inside or outside? Do you want to travel frequently or only on vacation with the family? Ask questions until the shape and texture of what you really want becomes clear.
Don’t be threatening
Sounds obvious, but hey, you don’t have a very good track record. Put away those old fashioned notions of how you might actually earn money from your dreams. They don’t need the pressure. Stop thinking about whether your mother will be proud of you for leaving your law practice to become a stagehand. Let your dreams tell their story without making any demands. Show some respect.
Listen and observe
You don’t have time for this. You feel silly. You’re sure there’s nothing inside that you haven’t seen or heard before. But how long have we shared the earth with the octopus without understanding how it blends so beautifully into its environment? Believe, for just a moment, that you are one of the most fascinating creatures on earth. What’s your natural habitat? What skills and talents come so naturally you take them for granted? If someone could only hire one person for a job, which one would make them pick you?
Source: www.everydaybright.com
Will
June 26, 2013 -
Thanx for posting this
Bright Quest Team
June 30, 2013 -
u wlcm.
HoyHot
June 26, 2013 -
Now I know wat am lookin for 😀
Bright Quest Team
June 30, 2013 -
great. now let go!!!!
Lovaman
June 27, 2013 -
Be patient >>> have to work on this one
Bright Quest Team
June 30, 2013 -
u’ll get there for sure
Bright Quest Team
June 30, 2013 -
thx for your support. 😀